Hiring the right person for a job can already be a dooming task, but can you imagine also having to consider their attractiveness before allowing them to work in your home? It seems silly but for any couple the thought of having someone good looking near the other partner can cause some concern, no matter how strong of a relationship it may be. However I don’t think that should be reason to deprive a home worker of a job.
Why turn away someone qualified for the job and risk hiring one that does subpar work? There isn’t much difference from having an attractive person at home or meeting one in the park or the workplace. As stated in an article by Isadora Alman, a marriage and family therapist, “The individual … may be eager to be desired again and/or to feel excitement once more but they didn’t actively go looking for it. The opportunity was there…” If a person in a marriage feels that cheating will satisfy them then they will take a chance, no matter where that chance appears. Although one can argue that having someone so close to home can have more of an impact, there really isn’t a guarantee that the person working for you will become more of a threat than a co-worker or close friend.
Another problem that arises from avoiding having hot people work around your home is how would you measure attractiveness? Even with both partners married does not mean they find the same things appealing. Someone could not be beautiful but instead have a really charming personality. With this logic it makes more sense to not hire anyone at all. Or perhaps the partner doesn’t need a gorgeous person to lean into the temptation of cheating. As mentioned on the Relate website, UK’s largest provider of relationship support, “Affairs are often problematic because they represent a short term solution to a longer term problem.” In short, a person who is willing to cheat will cheat whether there is an attractive person working in the home or not, so I think couples should hire anyone who is the best fit for the job.
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